Bessie Sullivan, County Librarian: Hello, I’m Bessie Sullivan from the Haliburton County Public Library and this is Library Moments. Once a week some of us from the library will come and talk about books, upcoming events, or the services we offer at the library.
Empathy is the capacity to understand what another person is experiencing from within the other person’s frame of reference, or as the old saying goes, “walk a mile in someone else’s shoes.”
Why is empathy important? Without it, we think that everyone else’s experiences are just like our own and we are unable to put ourselves in their position so that we can understand how they might be feeling.
Reading research suggests that readers are more empathetic than non-readers. Of course we don’t need proof that reading is good for you, but having it is nice.
This week on Library Moments Sherrill Sherwood, Erin Kernohan-Berning and I will each talk about a book that helped us develop empathy.
Sherrill Sherwood, Collections Development: “Everybody is smart in different ways. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its life believing it is stupid.” Fish in a Tree by Lynda Mullaly Hunt, a juvenile fiction book, is an uplifting novel that will speak to anyone who’s ever thought there was something wrong with them because they didn’t fit in. Before reading this book I thought dyslexia meant seeing letters or words backwards, making reading and writing a challenge. What I didn’t know is that letters can appear to be jumping, with headaches a common occurrence when struggling to read the moving inscriptions. I also never truly related to the emotional pain of watching everyone else sail along in school when it’s impossible to keep up. The main character Ally has been smart enough to fool a lot of smart people. Every time she lands in a new school, she is able to hide her inability to read by creating clever yet unruly distractions. She is afraid to ask for help; after all, how can you cure dumb? However, her newest teacher Mr. Daniels sees the bright, creative kid underneath the trouble maker. With his help, Ally learns not to be so hard on herself and that dyslexia is nothing to be ashamed of. As her confidence grows, Ally feels free to be herself and the world starts opening up with possibilities. She discovers that there’s a lot more to her, and to everyone, than a label, and that great minds don’t always think alike.
Erin Kernohan-Berning, Branch Services Librarian: There isn’t one of us who will escape losing a loved one, and sadly that loss is very likely to be after a prolonged illness. In A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness and illustrated by Jim Kay, Connor’s mother is very ill with cancer, and her treatments are failing. Connor is plagued regularly by a nightmare in which his mother is being pulled over a cliff into a pit by a dark and growling monster, the only thing between safety and being pulled in is her grip on Connor’s hands. After one of these nightmares another monster comes to visit Connor, but this time he doesn’t seem to be dreaming. The old yew tree starts to visit him every night at 12:07am, apparently at Connor’s bidding, leaving behind a mess of leaves and berries in his wake. But how did Connor call the monster? And for what purpose? The monster promises to lead Connor to the answer in the form of four stories, the last of which Connor will have to tell facing the thing he is most terrified of. A Monster Calls is based on an unfinished story by Siobhan Dowd, a popular YA author from Ireland who died of cancer. Ness deftly explores a number of aspects of dying and illness from the loved-one’s perspective, including feelings of exhaustion, isolation, denial, and acceptance. This short, unassuming, darkly illustrated junior book contains a powerful story whether you have cared for a dying loved one, or know someone who has or is, and is appropriate for young and adult audiences. A box of tissues nearby is recommended. A Monster Calls was the winner of the 2012 Carnegie Medal for Children’s Literature, and it’s companion prize the Kate Greenway Medal for Illustration. A movie adaptation also written by Ness is due to be released late 2016. The book is available at HCPL in print, as well as audiobook voiced by Jason Isaacs of Harry Potter fame.
Bessie: The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah is a novel about world war two that tells the story from a perspective I had never considered before. This is a tale of two sisters; Vianne and Isabelle, and Vianne’s part of the story takes place in an occupied French town where shortages of food and fear of the Nazi soldiers runs rampant. When France is overrun, Vianne is forced to take an enemy into her house, and suddenly her every move is watched; her life and her child’s life are at constant risk. Without food or money or hope, as danger escalates around her, she must make one terrible choice after another. What makes the situation worse is that even though forced to take a Nazi officer into her home, Vianne faces disdain from her village for supporting the enemy. Ultimately all she is trying to do is keep her daughter and herself alive and hope that one day her husband returns from the fighting. What surprised me about this story was how sensitively Hannah portrayed the first officer in Vianne’s house. You really got a sense for a person who was someplace he didn’t want to be and missing his family’s normal routine as badly as Vianne was missing hers. It was hard to view him as the enemy. To me, it felt like we had two people caught in a situation that was not of their making who were supposed to hate each other for no other reason than that their countries were at war.
We can’t possibly experience everything there is to experience in life, but perhaps by reading about other people’s situations we can better understand what other people are going through and how they may feel about it. Thanks for listening to Library Moments here on 100.9 CANOE FM.
*Originally aired on 100.9 CANOE FM May 31st – June 6th, 2015.